When we think of relationships, we usually think of a relationship that is based on what we consider to be love. Its these type of relationships that make us happy when we feel we are in a mutually loving relationship. To be happy in a relationship means that the relationship is working for both people in it. It also means that both parties have to work or do that little extra that it takes to make a relationship successful.

When we first meet someone if there is a spark and attraction it gives way to the possibility of a relationship. So we start to see the person and a relationship develops. It’s fair to say that all relationships seem to be great in the beginning. We do what it takes to get the person fully interested in us hook line and sinker. We try to impress the person of our desire and are on our best behavior. But once we are in the relationship for a few months we don’t feel like we need to impress the person any more. Our good behavior starts to fade. Familiarity starts in between the two people. They let their guarded behavior down and become closer as they get to know the real person each one is. It’s now official they are a couple.

When the good behavior ends and the real selves surface so do the quirks and odd behaviors that each party has. In fact some of the behavior you once thought was cute and funny isn’t anymore its now annoying. You are both at the point now in the relationship where familiarity breeds routine. This is where a relationship either maintains for the long haul or falls apart. You see the person as they really are and they you, and you decide if you really love this person enough to make it forever.

Always remember a successful relationship is based on two people working together. It won’t work if one does all the giving and the other does all the taking. You have to know when to give and you have to know when to receive. Also both people have to have enough compatibility to make it work. If you are not compatible its like putting oil and water together they just won’t gel no matter how hard you try to make it work.

One thing that is crucial along with respect and affection for each other is united vision. Even if some of your interests are different you both have to have the same idea on where you both want the relationship to be and where you want it to go. You have to be a team. Its thinking as a team of two that will make a relationship a successful one. If you both work together and are on the same wave length to make your relationship the best it can be for the both of you then it should be a successful one.

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